“ Ever tried? Ever failed? No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.”- Samuel Beckett
I cannot believe we are steadily heading towards mid-2017 and this is my first blog post for the year. Shame on me! Okay, before you bring out your pitch forks and fires give me a moment to explain myself:
I’m going to be as honest as I always am on this platform, and confess something I’ve been deeply ashamed to admit and that is… I’ve been failing.
Yes I said it, and I know what you thinking… “Isn’t she supposed to be a motivational speaker or something?” Trust me, I give myself a side eye sometimes too. However in order to help other people improve their lives I have to be honest about mine, and that honesty means sometimes admitting that I too deal with life’s issues. But before you reach for your box of tissues, please don’t cry for me, Argentina.
I have used the past few months to fail, fail, and fail some more. In work? Yes. In romance? You know that’s a yes. And in fitness? No, but I needed to add a third possibility for dramatic effect. I tell you all of this because I’m learning that the best thing about failing is it pulls you closer to yourself and forces you to grow and improve in ways that you didn’t think you were capable of.
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm”- Winston Churchill
This year has made me realise we spend so much time trying to avoid pain and failure that it keeps us in a state of fear. This fearful state then leads us to make “safe decisions” like taking the job with the guaranteed income instead of risking it all pursuing your dreams, or staying in a dead end relationship because you are afraid of the unknown.
All of these decisions are made in order to avoid discomfort, but the greatest lesson I’ve learned from 2017 is that nothing great can happen in my comfort zone. Yes, I’ve failed, but I’ve also become smarter and am more willing to take risks than I have ever been before.
So I’ve embraced the fear, am facing the unknown, and am moving forward.
Let me ask you one thing before I go: The last time you failed at something or got dumped, did you die?
If you reading this the answer is no, which means although it hurt you still made it out on the other side… so why not take that chance today, tomorrow, next week (because some things do need planning) and begin actually living a life you are proud of?
With Love Always